A Note to My Husband Regarding Mother’s Day

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For the past week,  you’ve been asking me repeatedly what you should get me for Mother’s Day. And while I try to tell you that it doesn’t work that way, I don’t think you understand how I feel. I’m going to try my best to explain what Mother’s Day means to me and what would make me happy.

Mother’s Day for me is all about celebrating being a mom.

I’m proud of being a mom.

Family Photo Shoot Fall 2014

Let’s face it, parenthood is hard.  Being a mom is definitely the toughest job I’ve ever had. For Mother’s Day all I really want is to feel appreciated and loved. How you show that is completely up to you and our boys.

It does not have to be an expensive gift. It doesn’t even have to be anything you buy. Simply think of what might make me feel special or give me a bit of a break.

Examples:

  • something the boys make
  • the house plastered with sweet notes from my boys
  • a treasure hunt around the house revealing art the boys made or little trinkets they pick out
  • taking us somewhere that we can enjoy as a family
  • breakfast in bed
  • making me feel pampered such as giving me a foot massage
  • I-O-U (s) for free passes later such as going shopping by myself or an evening with a friend
  • taking over my not-so-fun mom duties for the day like cleaning up after meals, changing all of Wesley’s diapers
  • allowing the boys to pick something small that reminds them of me or they think is pretty

I’ve avoided telling you any of these ideas because I felt like once I asked for it, it isn’t genuine. I wanted you to come up with these types of gestures on your own. But I’ve realized you don’t know. Even when I say I only want something thoughtful, you are confused about what that means. You don’t know what I want Mother’s Day to be about and what most mothers want.  And because of that, you get irritated with me, saying I don’t tell you what I want.

I hope that reading this post will shed some light on what would make me happy and keep you from getting frustrated. Mother’s Day should not be about hard feelings.

Here’s to a happy day, celebrating the rewarding yet challenging role of mom!

 

 

13 Comments

  1. I dont think men ‘get it’ when it comes to women and days like Mothers Day. I like this post and I hope you get everything on your list- or at least breakfast in bed!

  2. Lovely post! I hope your hubby reads the blog…I think coming up with non-material ways to show appreciation is difficult for most men. Breakfast in bed is an easy one, but the other ideas on your list would probably not come to mind for a lot of guys. I hope wives and mothers share this with the men in their lives to give them all an assist!

  3. Great post and just what moms want so that on especially tough days we can look back and remember they do appreciate all that goes into being a mother!

  4. You said it! My son is grown now but my husband still does his best to get me something each year even though I tell him that I’m not “his” mother. But I take whatever he gets me as an expression of his love. All I really care about is at least speaking with my son that day and enjoying time with him. Hope that you get something from your list.

  5. Wrote some things on Facebook but how about this one, a surprise for a night or two where you don’t have to do much at all. That sure would be fun and for the family Guess because I’m a mom I can think of many things I’d enjoy and some of the most priceless are the cards, art work, etc. our little ones make for us. No gift could compare

  6. Awesome post! I don’t know if it’s all husbands or just yours and mine. They need to understand that sometimes it’s the little thing that count the most. I am glad you wrote this for your husband, now I can show it to mine. 🙂

    Happy Mother’s Day!!

  7. my hubby is out doing the grocery shopping for me right now, and no dish washing for me today either 🙂 i’m happy with that!

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