Do You Wear Your Wedding Ring?
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I remember when my husband, Joe proposed. It was Christmas Eve and I was honestly picking chicken out of my teeth (no lie) after dinner when Joe could wait no longer to pop the question. He got down on one knee in front of my family and produced a ring. We had been together a few years already and while I knew we would probably eventually get married, the timing really threw me for a loop. And as he held out a simple round diamond engagement ring, I didn’t take a moment’s pause before saying yes!
Apparently he had really stressed about picking out my engagement ring. There were so many things to consider such as ring settings and size. And because we were just out of college, it was important that the ring be both adequate and yet fairly affordable. To be on the safe side he picked a simple 1/2 carat round cut solitaire so that I could choose my perfect ring.
Joe purchased it from a big name jeweler from the mall and now I’m not sure he would do the same. Now he probably could have gotten a better deal from online retailers.
Within a week of being engaged, I caught the ring on the front door of our apartment building and bent one of the prongs. My diamond went flying. We found it right away but it scared us and we immediately went in for a six prong setting (versus the original four) and switched the band from gold to platinum so it would be stronger and the silver tone I preferred.
Later I chose a simple wrap band with four additional smaller round diamonds. It exactly what I was looking for in a ring. Simple and not too big but certainly not too small either at over a carat total.
For my husband we chose from simple titanium bands. We loved the color and the strength of the material. The only problem was that it couldn’t be resized and only came in full sizes. It looked great for our wedding ceremony but not long into our marriage Joe lost his ring, several times. It was just slightly too big. While we found it each time it went missing, it just became easier for him to not wear it any longer, especially since he has lost 40 pounds or so since we got married.
I wear my ring every day. In fact I only take it off to take it off to shower, apply lotion or for other messy tasks. My husband on the other hand never wears his ring. And I guess purchasing a new band has never been a top priority. It actually doesn’t really bother me and I suppose that is only because I understand why he doesn’t wear it and I feel secure in our relationship.
So thinking about how much money and time goes into picking out wedding bands, I have to ask, do you you wear yours? Would it bother you if your spouse didn’t?
I only wear my engagement ring for special occasions but always have my wedding band on.
Sadly, hubby and I don’t have the choice anymore. We were very young when we got married so we didn’t have great and expensive rings to begin with but they meant the world to us. Well, hubby couldn’t wear his for work, had to take it off, and of course was lost to the ether. I was in a rollover car wreck with my sister 12 years ago and my rings, along with two of my fingers, were crushed when my hand went out the sunroof in one of the flips. We celebrated our 15th anniversary last summer but decided to go on a trip instead of buying new rings since we never got to go on a honeymoon. Maybe when our daughter graduates from high school in two years. Lol. Not, then we have college to pay for. It’s all worth it though. We got married at 18 and 19 because I was pregnant. This all sounds so sad written out but we are extremely happy, especially because with hubby having had cancer as a child and my terrible ovarian cysts, we were told we would neither ever have a child so happy ending to that side of the story. And we know we’re married, that’s all that matters, well and that God of course knows as well. We live in a very small town so we know everyone and they all know we’re married too. Hubby still works in the oilfield so he still can’t wear a ring and I deliver mail now and probably wouldn’t want to wear one while I did that either.
Leah
I wear my wedding ring. I only take it off when I am putting lotion on or working with raw meat. My husband, on the other hand, has not worn his is 15 years. You see, my husband is a hunter and when he was coming down a tree stand, his ring caught on a small branch of the tree and almost severed his finger. It doesn’t bother me that he doesn’t wear it, because I do understand.
My husband and I both wear ours daily. Although sometimes the hubby forgets. Neither of us wears ours when we are out on the boat for fear of losing it and we both take ours off before bed. It would probably bother me if he didn’t wear his.
My husband and I took a promise BEFORE we got married that we would keep our wedding rings on. And now that we have been married for a few years, we still do have them on!
I never take off my wedding band, but I take off my engagement ring when I go to bed. It has a high setting and 1) I don’t want to catch it on the sheets and bend a prong (there are only four) and 2) I’ve actually scratched my husband with it while sleeping. Oops:)
I wear mine every day for every activity (minus things like hand mixing raw meat)
Hubby does not wear his. In fact, he doesn’t currently have one. It doesn’t bother me as he’d rather see $ go into our home improvement/renovation projects. Or towards family fun activities.
Hubby and I both wear our rings to work or whenever we leave the house. We generally take them off at home. We will be married 17 years this year and it wouldn’t bother me if hubby couldn’t wear his ring anymore due health reasons.
This is an interesting post. I enjoyed reading all the comments.
Ack! I just lost the main stone out of my ring last week…and we didn’t find it 🙁 I wore it 24/7, the prongs have been adjusted/tightened twice in the last almost 7 years we’ve been married. So, so sad. We will get it replaced, but now I’m really contemplating only wearing it on special occasions and getting a simple band to wear everyday.
I have a small band with no diamond or anything on it, and I wear it everyday all the time. i don’t take it off to shower or clean or anything. The ring stays with me even though it’s not something expensive or anything like that.
My husband, on the other hand, can’t wear his ring at work and it kinda bothers him to wear it at home so he never wears it. I think he wore it for a couple of months after we got married and then it got lost. When I got him another one he didn’t feel the need to wear it.. so there he goes… ringless 🙂
I don’t really care he doesn’t wear it as it’s not a definition of our marriage or the vows we did when we got married.
I wear mine everyday. The only time I didn’t was when I was pregnant and it got to tight. I have a different ring than the one I had when we got married. I love it though. I have never seen my husband without his ring
My husband and I both wear our rings each and everyday!! I would be completely offended if he didn’t wear it as would he if it was the other way around.
My husband and I never take our rings off for anytime for more than a few minutes.
My husband wears his all the time. I took mine of several years ago and it never grew back on me. I just can’t be asked any more. Strange; out of two of us I am more committed to our marriage, but he likes to wear the symbol of his adulthood visible (I suppose).
I never take mine off. There are a few times I should have though, I bent a prong and a stone fell out one winter in a glove when we were loading materials in our car from Home Depot! My husband has a titanium ring but doesn’t wear it all the time.
I have been married for 5 years now to a man who is in the military. I wear my ring everyday but my husband never wears his. He says the only reason he does not is because he does not like wearing jewelry. Not only do I wear my wedding ring, I also wear another ring that he bought me on my pinky finger. He gets upset at me and tells me that wearing another ring on my wedding band hand means I want to be single, but remember he does not wear his at all. Is there some kind of law or handbook that says you cant wear another ring on your wedding hand?
I know lots of spouses who don’t wear their wedding rings, either doesn’t fit or more likely they don’t want to lose it. I don’t think it would bother me either if hubby didn’t wear it, You should trust he’s doing it for the right reasons. I have lost my ring 2 times and once I was lucky to get it back but because you invest so much money and time in choosing it you should know what’s best for you, if you are forgetful like me, then keep it in a safe place and only use in special occasions ? By the way, I love your proposal story 🙂