Naming your child can be one of the hardest decisions you’ll make when becoming a parent. If you were like me you devoured baby name books and kept your eyes and ears open when reading books or watching television to get a new idea for a name. Trying to find a name that both my husband Joe and I loved was also a challenge. We both didn’t want names either of us thought was just ok. We both wanted to LOVE it and we didn’t want it to too common which I think is fairly typical.
To make it a little tougher, we didn’t find out the sex of either of our babies. I just couldn’t give up that glorious surprise at the end of labor to find out. I love surprises and don’t like spoilers, even though the practical side of me was dying to know. (I could buy so much baby stuff on sale ahead of time if only I knew!) And so while we easily settled on a baby girl’s name the boy’s name was not final by the time I went into labor with my firstborn. This is why, I’m sure, we ended up having a boy. We waited until everyone cleared the room and it was just Joe, myself and our new precious gift. Our wonderful, perfect little boy. And somehow we just knew that he was Lucian. While we had talked about the name before as an alternative to Luke, (which we loved but was more common than we had wanted) we weren’t sure it was the right name. Neither of us had ever known a Lucian. What are the possibilities in school for teasing? Would people know how to pronounce it? Did it fit well with our last name? Is it too uncommon? Are we using our obsession with the HBO series Rome and its main character Lucius Vorenus to name our child? But we just knew. After telling people the name of our new baby we got what was obviously a love or hate opinion of the name. Sometimes it was hard to know who was telling the truth and who wasn’t when you got canned, “Oh that’s nice” often times in a tone that sounds fake.
My husband and I love the name and know Lucian was meant to be our first son’s name. When choosing a name you can’t please everyone, only yourselves. The thought that certain people look at that name in horror and want to ask me, “Why would you ever name your child that?” does bother me slightly but I just might look at your child and the name you’ve chosen and think the same thing. You know what, that’s ok too!
I encourage everyone to wait to tell anyone your baby’s name until they are born like we did. You will then have no outside influences to change your mind since there will always be someone who thinks you’ve chosen the wrong name. Nobody dares say much when you’ve already named them! I can’t even imagine Lucian being named anything else. It suits him don’t you think? And if you don’t, please feel free to keep those comments to yourself! 🙂